Comments on: A Wall of Wisdom for my eldest daughter (help needed) http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/ Intellectual discussions on pressing issues Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:42:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Lori Reed http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-10777 Lori Reed Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:00:42 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-10777 Don't worry about what you're wearing, just make the scene. when you look back you won't even REMEMBER what you had on. you'll cherish what HAPPENED. and twenty years from now, every outfit you rock today will look totally ridiculous anyway. you're beautiful, accept that, don't fret over it, move on to DOING things, not fretting over things. if people dissapoint you, don't take that as a total dis. understand that people only give things of a quality and character that they are capable of. and people constantly change and grow, a lot depends on when and where they enter your life.cherish all love because you inspire and deserve that love. understand, though, that the love is only as good as the lover. surround yourself with people of high quality for that reason. Don’t worry about what you’re wearing, just make the scene. when you look back you won’t even REMEMBER what you had on. you’ll cherish what HAPPENED. and twenty years from now, every outfit you rock today will look totally ridiculous anyway. you’re beautiful, accept that, don’t fret over it, move on to DOING things, not fretting over things.

if people dissapoint you, don’t take that as a total dis. understand that people only give things of a quality and character that they are capable of. and people constantly change and grow, a lot depends on when and where they enter your life.cherish all love because you inspire and deserve that love. understand, though, that the love is only as good as the lover. surround yourself with people of high quality for that reason.

]]> By: Todd Shaw http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-10479 Todd Shaw Mon, 19 Nov 2007 19:37:29 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-10479 Happy (belated) Birthday Kenyatta! My apologies that I am so late in observing your birthday! (You would probably give me the advice, 'remember my birthday on time next year!' :) smile.) Seriously, my advice follows along my mantra in life: "True happiness has no schedule, and often no agenda." This simply means that be mindful of being on time but try and not live your life according to the clocks of others. If we judge ourselves by the clocks of others we are bound to be in the wrong place at the wrong time no matter how we feel about our own dreams. Just follow you own rthymn, after you've listened to the advice of others, and you are bound to never be out of step. Sincerely, Todd Shaw Happy (belated) Birthday Kenyatta!

My apologies that I am so late in observing your birthday! (You would probably give me the advice, ‘remember my birthday on time next year!’ :) smile.)

Seriously, my advice follows along my mantra in life:

“True happiness has no schedule, and often no agenda.”

This simply means that be mindful of being on time but try and not live your life according to the clocks of others. If we judge ourselves by the clocks of others we are bound to be in the wrong place at the wrong time no matter how we feel about our own dreams. Just follow you own rthymn, after you’ve listened to the advice of others, and you are bound to never be out of step.

Sincerely, Todd Shaw

]]> By: DarkStar http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9986 DarkStar Sat, 10 Nov 2007 03:08:07 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9986 The more you learn, the more you will realize what you don't know. Remember that when you think you "know it all." Older people are "smarter" because they have more experience. Experience is the best teacher. Those who are experienced, are the next best teachers. If you don't believe in yourself, others have no reason to believe in you. The more you learn, the more you will realize what you don’t know. Remember that when you think you “know it all.”

Older people are “smarter” because they have more experience. Experience is the best teacher. Those who are experienced, are the next best teachers.

If you don’t believe in yourself, others have no reason to believe in you.

]]> By: DarkStar http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9984 DarkStar Sat, 10 Nov 2007 02:57:55 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9984 A good decision gets you one step ahead. A good decision after that gets you 2 1/2 steps ahead. A good decision after that gets you 5 steps ahead. A bad decision gets you one step behind. A bad decision after that, most likely to "correct" the bad mistake you just made, gets you 4 steps behind. A bad decision after that, most likely to "correct" the past 2 mistakes, gets you 8 steps behind. More work is always required to correct a bad step. Try your best to minimize the bad steps. A good decision gets you one step ahead.
A good decision after that gets you 2 1/2 steps ahead.
A good decision after that gets you 5 steps ahead.

A bad decision gets you one step behind.
A bad decision after that, most likely to “correct” the bad mistake you just made, gets you 4 steps behind.
A bad decision after that, most likely to “correct” the past 2 mistakes, gets you 8 steps behind.

More work is always required to correct a bad step. Try your best to minimize the bad steps.

]]> By: Regina Freer http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9971 Regina Freer Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:50:40 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9971 My father taught me two very important lessons that I actually end up applying almost every day: "You never get something for nothing" and "Be brave." I encourage my students to create options and be prepared to make the most of them. Better to create and then make the choice then to have someone else make it for you. When you are elderly and your mind starts to go what will remain is your strongest memories, the ones you've played over and over in your mind - good AND bad - so make sure you create as many good ones as possible! And finally, read everything and travel everywhere! My father taught me two very important lessons that I actually end up applying almost every day: “You never get something for nothing” and “Be brave.”

I encourage my students to create options and be prepared to make the most of them. Better to create and then make the choice then to have someone else make it for you.

When you are elderly and your mind starts to go what will remain is your strongest memories, the ones you’ve played over and over in your mind - good AND bad - so make sure you create as many good ones as possible!

And finally, read everything and travel everywhere!

]]> By: Mojax http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9970 Mojax Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:37:24 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9970 Don't miss today while you're dreaming about tomorrow. Maybe you feel that you just can't wait until you're older, but there are many adults who wish they could have their younger years back. Just enjoy and appreciate being 13 while you can. Don’t miss today while you’re dreaming about tomorrow. Maybe you feel that you just can’t wait until you’re older, but there are many adults who wish they could have their younger years back. Just enjoy and appreciate being 13 while you can.

]]> By: Caurnel http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9938 Caurnel Fri, 09 Nov 2007 01:06:46 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9938 1. [Our then 4-yr old daughter, Elise, to my wife, Rebecca] ... Well, you're not my friend anymore! [Rebecca to Elise] I'm something better than that, I'm your mother! Now, do what I told you to do. 2. [Caurnel to our daughters Elise (5 yrs old) and Natalia (2 yrs old) at bedtime.] Its alright to close your eyes and go to sleep. We'll still love you while you are sleeping. We'll be here when you wake up, and we'll love you then. 3. You learn to love listening to both Anotonin Dvorak's "Symphony No. 9, 3rd Movement" and James Brown's "You Can Have Watergate (Just Gimme Some Bucks and I'll Be Straight)". 1. [Our then 4-yr old daughter, Elise, to my wife, Rebecca] … Well, you’re not my friend anymore! [Rebecca to Elise] I’m something better than that, I’m your mother! Now, do what I told you to do.

2. [Caurnel to our daughters Elise (5 yrs old) and Natalia (2 yrs old) at bedtime.] Its alright to close your eyes and go to sleep. We’ll still love you while you are sleeping. We’ll be here when you wake up, and we’ll love you then.

3. You learn to love listening to both Anotonin Dvorak’s “Symphony No. 9, 3rd Movement” and James Brown’s “You Can Have Watergate (Just Gimme Some Bucks and I’ll Be Straight)”.

]]> By: gazelle du sahara http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9930 gazelle du sahara Thu, 08 Nov 2007 22:15:29 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9930 pimp the system, don't let the system pimp you. i.e. take advantage of every opportunity to achieve/experience something that you come across. When there seems like there seems to be no opportunity there, be creative and make one for yourself. pimp the system, don’t let the system pimp you.

i.e. take advantage of every opportunity to achieve/experience something that you come across. When there seems like there seems to be no opportunity there, be creative and make one for yourself.

]]> By: kof boom http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9921 kof boom Thu, 08 Nov 2007 16:54:14 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9921 "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." --nelson mandela "A buckeye is just a crazy nut." --anon “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” –nelson mandela

“A buckeye is just a crazy nut.” –anon

]]> By: thembi http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9896 thembi Wed, 07 Nov 2007 21:47:25 +0000 http://blacksmythe.com/blog/2007/10/31/a-wall-of-wisdom-for-my-eldest-daughter-help-needed/#comment-9896 "Follow Your Heart" “Follow Your Heart”

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